You do know you can say “No!” at any time right?
I just hope what I’ve been seeing, again, on social media, is just that, for likes and retweets on social media.
I came across This tweet, a female tweeted “How you go to somebody house to get fucked, get fucked, but now it's rape???.”
[Let’s take away the possibility that the female could be lying and I want to subtract this scenario because I want to speak more on the different looks rape has that I don’t think a lot of people know of, look for, or understand....]
Maybe many of you only see rape as being painted as someone being attacked, grabbed from behind, hand over mouth, drug and put into a trunk or backseat of a car, taken to a secluded place, underwear ripped off, gun being held to their head as they are being told, “don’t scream”, or “don’t turn around”, or as someone breaking into your home, knife held to your throat, as they rip your underwear off, have sex with you as you lay there stiff crying until they make their way out and you muster up enough strength to report the incident to someone. Or maybe as going to a party, leaving early, stepping off, stepping into another room to talk, as they forcefully began kissing and groping all over you, as you push them away asking “what are you doing?” And they ignore you. They keep going pushing their hands down into your pants, and into your panties, still forcefully kissing you, now their fingers are inside of you, you are yelling as loud as you can for them to stop, to get off of you but they keep going until they go all the way and get what they want from you.
Does rape ONLY happen like this? Are these scenarios the only “acceptable” painting for a situation to be considered rape?
According to Merriam-Webster the first definition they have listed for rape is : unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person's will or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception
But I LOVE THE SECOND AND THIRD LISTINGS !!!!
2nd: an outrageous violation; [[sexual of course]] and the 3rd: an act or instance of robbing or despoiling or carrying away a person by force [in some sexual form of course]
All of these definitions involve sexual encounters some deeply defined and others; simplicity at its finest.
Going back to someone’s place, even holding their hands while you do so, kissing and holding hands while you do so do not take away the act of rape.
Going to someone house under the assumption of having sex and then not wanting to, do not take away the act of rape.
Getting undressed and then changing your mind, do not take away from the act of rape.
Simply saying NO whether they believe you or not, thought you were playing or not, say you knew what was up or not, MEANS NO AND DO NOT TAKE AWAY FROM THE ACT OF robbing or despoiling or carrying away a person MENTAL, SELF ESTEEM, CONFIDENCE, stability by force! It do not lessen the act of that OUTRAGEOUS VIOLATION to her body, her temple, her secret place.......
The background DO NOT MATTER
The time of day DO NOT MATTER
What you were wearing DO NOT MATTER
You making it all the way to the destination DO NOT MATTER. ONCE YOU SAY NO. IT SHOULD MEAN JUST THAT......FUCKING NO!!!!!
I absolutely love this read. Often when rape is talked about in this generation it’s followed up by being a joke, or it’s said the female is almost always lying, or k ew what it was. I don’t think they understand you can say no up until the second before it happens. NO AT ANY TIME STILL COUNTS AND STILL MEAN NO!
ReplyDeleteSad thing is, the days seem long gone where women stick up for women who say they have been raped. Now they attack just like the men.. what happened to solidarity? 🥺
ReplyDeleteI have no idea especially with something as serious and sensitive as Rape 😔
DeleteIf both people don’t agree on all the acts during Sex and say no while the other person continue to do so it’s rape. If a person is crying out loud not being into it’s rape if the other person continue doing so. Both people have to be in agreement with all acts for it not to be considered rape. Def have to be of age.
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ReplyDeleteI agree there are different scenarios of rape and whether male and female or same sex have the right to say no . Even up until the last minute or while in the middle of sex someone can say no and They have that right . Yes there are times when your talking to someone and y’all plan to have sexual contact and when you actually there and time to do it a person maybe nervous or uncomfortable and now they don’t want to do it anymore. I do not like when men try to guilt trip or manipulate a woman into still following through with it. Men need to start recognizing the signs of being uncomfortable and not just focusing on their own wants . A woman will respect you more if you respect her and maybe there will be another time with her
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