Do you or have you ever lied to your mate or Ex habitually?

 Do you or have you ever lied to your mate or Ex habitually? Why?

I’m not sure I’ve ever been in or witnessed a situation where lying for any reason has made a situation better. I recently asked someone I used to deal with to openly and honestly tell me his reasons behind constantly lying to me even though I ALWAYS find the truth and he flat out said “it’s to protect your feelings.” 


But has this ever protected feelings? Or caused more problems and left the feelings more open and exposed. 


In my opinion, many people lie not to protect feelings but to continue to “ have their cake and eat it too.” Lying only “protect” a situation or a double life of the person that’s doing the lying. They know that telling the truth could potentially cause them to lose everything they have in that current space they are In. You will no longer have 2 females you’re dealing with or you won’t have 2 men giving you money and or paying your bills. 

People telling the lies don’t actually think about the damage mentally and emotionally it’s causing or have caused in the person they are lying too especially if that person always finds out the truth. 

Lying makes you selfish. When you lie I feel like you only care about yourself! You are really only protecting yourself. You are only thinking about what you will lose or how to protect what you have gained. 

Telling the truth is ALWAYS the best option. No matter how heartbreaking it is. 

I have a little saying I live by;

Tell me the truth and let me decide if I wanna stay and live in your mess with you. Don’t lie to me and force me to blindly live in a situation know nothing about. Choosing to be hurt should be my decision truthfully not blindly. 

If you have done something to your mate that would force them to leave you, you need to own what you did and accept that you lost them. Let them have the choice between wanting to stay and walking away, especially if it’s a topic that’s not being lived down or a situation they already know about. 


Sadly I’m not talking about situations you are truly getting away with. Some mates feel like if you are going to do what you do don’t bring it home. So what they don’t know really won’t hurt them. BUT if your mate isn’t that person and come to you and want honesty I feel like they at least deserve that much! 


Have you ever lied to spare your mates feeling? 

Did it work? 

Did it make the situation better? Messier? Or worst? 

Do you think lying is just a person being selfish and not caring? 

How do you feel about LIES? 

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