Do you feel you attract the Men/Women you deserve.

 Do you feel you attract the Men/Women you deserve. 


First I want to look at this topic in the negative. 

I remember being on the phone with my best friend venting about a guy where things were going fine and then began to spiral out of control. I just burst out, remember feeling so emotionally and said “I don’t deserve this, I don’t deserve the type of men I attract”. As he wasn’t the only “failure” within the year. 

I tend to attract liars, guys in situations, guys that don’t know what they want, guys that want to play with me or lead me astray. Guys that’s not even willing to tell me exactly what they want whether it’s nothing at all, or something small. 

No I don’t expect to get your number Monday and you tell me Tuesday what our future holds but you and I know that when your pursue someone you know if you want them, you want to side them, you only want to fck them and so on and so forth. Yes flings turn into something deeper sometimes but I’m saying if you only want to play with this and see where it goes then SAY THAT! I had a guy chase me for 4-5 years! I finally gave him a chance and although he was saying he wanted me he was deep in with multiple girls abs it wasn’t until I confronted him that he said he didn’t want a relationship but we were doing a lot of relationship shit! 

I’m the girl that’s straight up with you, before I give out my number. In our first conversation I strictly state “ please, in whatever you do please always be honest!” I don’t like liars, I don’t like half truths, I don’t like drama. I don’t like men with “situations at home “, no money, no jobs, no futures, or with any kind of drama. I don’t judge, I’m very open, very empathetic and sympathetic. All which I believe leads to my downfalls with men. Because while I’ll leave a bad situation in a hot second I give out 1000 hot chances to make it right. 

I give out what I want in return. I treat people how I want to be treated as cliche as it may sound. Often times I do forget that everyone, if anyone, is not me. We don’t share the same mindset, heart or past relationship experiences so everyone is not out to treat you as Amazing as you feel you deserve! While I can figure out many things, I have yet to figure out why I attract what I so desperately don’t want or deserve! 


I am open to advice and opinions. Make sure to leave your 2 cents below lol. 


On the positive side do you attract the good and you’re bad? Do you attract people that’s ready and your not? Ready for relationships and families ? Ready to be only yours and give you the world but you’re not ready to stop being claimed by the “streets”? 


Why do you think we attract our opposites? Why we meet so many people that’s not in the same space as us? 

Why are people not as open to keep it real with what it is they do want and what space they are in? Is it out of fear of not getting that cake they want to eat so bad? 


Have you ever been with someone that wasn’t on the same page as you but you did not want to tell them? Why not? 

Protecting feelings is also a guess. 

This is something I also speak on when dating. Please don’t lie or move in any way thinking you will protect my feelings because once the truth comes out you will only hurt me more in the end. 


I want to hear your stories, experiences and feedback with this topic. Which side of this field were you on? What advice would you give me? What are your thoughts on why this situation often happens?

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