Fear :

 Fear : dealing/overcoming anxiety and negative thoughts.

Do you let fear take over your life sometimes? Or many times? 

I have to admit that when it comes to certain things fear rules my thoughts. 

Lately I’ve been reading mantras, changing my thoughts and the way I look at situations, and changing the way I let fear enter my life. 

Because my fear causes anxiety I've been trying to figure out ways in which I can overcome my fears and learn a new hobby/habit at the same time. 

In this blog I will share with you the ways in which I am working on overcoming my fears while putting peace into my surrounding space. After reading this blog I hope it helps you start working on overcoming your fears and introduce to you new habits of peace and love. 


  1. First I started off with my mornings. I wanted to start waking up at least an hour earlier to pray/meditate, drink a hot cup of herbal tea or do some juicing (I decided to start juicing every other day). I could also read my bible and this book I bought titled “The Book Of Happy; 250 ways to a happier you” It's full of positive affirmations and mantras that help me be my happiest self. 

I picked up ‘The book about happy’ not because I was unhappy, but because I need more positive affirmations in my life. Repeating mantras, doing self care activities, keeping gratitude at the forefront was something I needed. 

 

A few mantras that helped me began to work on and overcome this fear I had were

  • Fear is Fake, Love is Real

  • Fear can't survive where love dwell

  • Energy flows where attention goes

  • I am a happy soul

  • Happiness is available to you every step of your journey 

In the morning during meditation and even before bed I would recite these mantras. Especially because one of my fears is Death. 

Many days I have to snap out of my thoughts and back into reality that we all must pass on one day and that I should be loving and enjoying life every second of my life instead of obsessing over the day I won't be here anymore.

One situation in particular that helped me snap out of my fear : 

One evening while in Disney World my family and I were walking around Magic Kingdom and fear of death began to take over. I began to estimate how many people were walking around at the moment and how many would be dead by the end of the week. Then I quickly remembered that "Fear is fake!" I immediately shifted my thinking to "Celebrate the fact that everyone around you currently have life, they are living and enjoying every current minute of it ❤️" That immediately made my fear and anxiety go away. 

 

Next while in the realm of praying/peace/meditation I ordered a few oil diffusers for my "comfort space". Certain scents helps with many things : 

  • Peppermint: used to boost energy and aid digestion.

  • Lavender: used to relieve stress.

  • Sandalwood: used to calm nerves and help with focus.

  • Bergamot: used to reduce stress and improve skin conditions like eczema.

  • Rose: used to improve mood and reduce anxiety.

  • Chamomile: used to improve mood and relaxation.

Lastly I am just making sure I have as much fun living my life with my daughter and my significant other that I almost don't think about my fears. 

If I'm not relaxing, praying, meditating, writing or  reading in my free time I am somewhere doing something amazingly fun with my baby girl.


What are some things you do to overcome your fears and or anxiety? Comment them down below. We can all take something and begin to use them or make them a new habit in our own lives.


Comments

  1. AnonymousSeptember 25, 2021 at 7:52 AM

    Damn this was deep sis reading this help me right now cause as u knw I’m going though it I really don’t have anything to help with my anxiety but I do seek for u knw outside help as in Therapist In going to groups but I’m tried of that so I jst smoke bud all day I do be in my head a lot bout life cause my life ain’t it I got 3 kids an ain’t got none an not cause of me that’s wht makes it real bad I knw ya bro may have painted a bad story on me but he don’t really know me like we didn’t really get to know each other and I knew him and then will have for four years before Allen came Grill if you have time I would love to tell you my long story but back to the anxiety I’m going to look at some of the things that you u dwn that helps u to see if it help me as well thanks so much for sending this to me ‼️‼️💯

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  2. LeeaBSeptember 25, 2021 at 3:55 PM

    I actually had to read this a couple times and sit and think about it because I actually been going through it between my family , my relationship and my own personal aspirations. I often feel like I’m not doing enough or I can’t ever stick through with things I start and all that messes with my anxiety. You listed a lot of good ways to cope with it me
    And Kayla actually started mediating and we liked it just to try something different because kids go through things also . So I just been thinking heavily on keeping myself as well as my family at peace and just having a positive outlook on life. Trying not to even associate negative minded friends and family. I just want to live a better life and being as though we live in Philly it doesn’t make it better I think about dying all the time now and it makes my nerves bad but I often pray over myself and my family everyday that he has a shield over us. Idk if you kno or not but I’m not religious at all and I don’t conform or belong to shy religion but more so spiritual.

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    1. Sy SharellSeptember 27, 2021 at 6:34 AM

      Yes I know and I feel the same. I rarely stick something out or go through with an idea or plan but as of lately I've been changing the way I think and view life and I chose life and to enjoy it and to do everything I say I want to do. So that's starting with changing how I view life and stop putting death over it.

      And yes I know but as long as you pray and feel connected to something then that's all that matters

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