Are they really loyal? Earned or Defaulted?

 

Have you ever sat back and thought about why you gave your friend the title BEST FRIEND? Or why is that cousin your “Favorite”? What test have they passed proving their loyalty to you? Have you ever passed the loyalty test for them?

We often hold people to the highest level plus some because they’ve been around us for a long time. You guys are building a connection simply because they are always around and not because there is actually a bond being built. 

If your BEST bitch or FAVORITE cousin never showed you they were down for you then how do you know it’s through thick or thin? 

Most people have only been loyal to you this long SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER BEEN PUT IN A POSITION TO CROSS YOU. They have only been “holding you down” this long SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY HAVE YET TO HAVE THE CHANCE TO LET YOU GO. 

How can you deem someone loyal if they never been in a position to “have your back, speak up for you, step up for you, step for you, or speak on your behalf”? 

Many, many times we give these very important titles to people too loosely! 

You can’t call someone a shooter who will step for you, shoot some shit for you or even protect you if they have never been put in a position to pull their gun. Simply just having a gun and carrying it don’t make you a shooter. It’s easy to say what you’d do but how do you know if the situation was never presented to you? 

WOULD you want someone holding the gun who never had to shoot one? 

You need people around you with experience. You wouldn’t allow someone to watch your child at a pool who don’t even get in the water would you? A lifeguard can wear the uniform all day but if a child never drowned, walked out too far, or fell in 8 feet on their watch then how do they know what they’d do once the situation presents itself, if they have yet to ever face that situation? 

Are you letting someone be the designated driver on ladies night who never drove a car before just because they don’t drink? 

You have to look at all sides of the equation. Most likely there is a but after the greatness. 

I had to end a 20 year friendship with someone I praised for being loyal, for being real, for being my sister, for always being there and having my back, for being my soul mate, because not once did I ever take into consideration that in those 20 years she was never put in a position to cross me and that’s actually why she never did it. It wasn’t because she was actually all those things it was more so because going against those things never crossed her path in those 20 years. But year 20, the opportunity presented itself and she crossed me quicker than crossing in the street when it’s not your light. 

This blog isn’t for you to go back and fix things that’s not broken but to prepare yourself for the ones that’s only around showing face, being deemed as loyal and a rider and a real one and they never showed you they were or can actually be those things, if put in the position or presented with the opportunity they wouldn’t fold. 

Look out for resume people/friendships. 

You know the people that list a bunch of qualities and experience they possess but never actually was hands on, if ever, they never even did or was presented with any of those qualifications in their life time.

Are they loyal to you, a ride or die, or a real one because they truly hold it down? Or are they everything they’ve never been presented with? ………. 

Many people hold titles never having to actually earn for them.