Healing is a journey so how do you prepare for the long road trip?

 When you are going through something,

Getting through something, or have just come out of something the best way to get a hold of it, to get back in to the swing of life or to get through it, is to prepare for the long road of recovery ahead.

We as people lack recovery/ downtime. We don’t give ourself time to heal. Wether that looks like jumping right back into something, overworking ourselves to stay busy, not working at all or being productive, or simply not processing the situation. Heartbreak of any kind of “ship” and or death isn’t the only situations we need to take time from and focus on healing. 

Breakups 

Child loss 

Child gain (birth/adoption)

Job loss

Job promotion 

Recovery (addiction)

A sudden change in your repetitive routine 

Moving 

Upgrading space

Downgrading space 

New relationship 

New marriage 

New school

Anything that cause an extreme emotional, spiritual, or physical change, good or bad is going to take time to heal or adjust to. I use the word heal because whether we know it or not, good or bad, these situations affect us in someway by changing our emotional outlook and mental outlook on the situation or life.

I wanted to create this article to help you chose a few ways to help you process change, heal yourself and live on from the damaging or positive situation gracefully. 

First, you always want to remember baby steps count. You don’t have to run through the process of healing. Consciously taking it one day at a time will still lead you in the direction of and to the finish line. 

Second, knowing that you don’t have to heal to 100% to see a great change or difference, or to feel like your progress is sufficient. If you move forward 10% you have made some kind of adequate progress. Taking one step forward, although may not feel big enough to you, still moves you out of the starting space. 

Next, when practicing healing you must incorporate patience. Nothing happens overnight. Give yourself time and grace to get to the finish line. Your healing process is not a race and even if it takes 100 days in the end you still crossed the finish line! 

Make sure your expectations are realistic. Again this goes back to having patience and taking your time to heal. Leave room for setbacks and take them as lessons. 

The one I like the most is Praying. 

Talk to God. Ask him for his healing power. Ask him what lessons you should be learning and looking out for on this journey. Not everything you go through is meant to break you. Sometime these things are sent to elevate you and to help get you out of your comfort zone. God knew if he would have left you the way you were you wouldn’t elevate on your own because you were too comfortable. Read your Bible, study it, learn the promises God have for you so you know what to look for, what’s to come, and what to expect.

Last, but not least self care in your healing phase is going to be very important! Take time to love yourself, HEAL yourself, spend time with yourself, pamper yourself, use daily affirmations, work on things you’ve been putting off. Do things to strengthen your emotional state and to increase your self confidence. A lot of time healing involves you taking the time to nurse yourself back to health. That may look like relearning yourself, loving yourself, spending time with yourself, protecting yourself, putting new boundaries in place and standing on everything you layout as far as what you want moving forward.

Whether good or bad, a break up or a promotion at work, give yourself time to adjust to the “New” norm in your life, no matter what it is. Take time to love and strengthen yourself, have patience with yourself, talk to God, learn your promises and become adjusted, whole, and back to you! Remember healing is a journey and what you do on this journey matters the most.