Emotionally leaving a relationship before physically leaving.

 This week on social media Saweetie announced her and Quavo split. She also said she left emotionally a long time ago before they physically split. 

There was a thread on Twitter with females and males bashing her because they felt like if she no longer had any emotional ties to him why stay longer than need be? Of course some guys were calling her a gold digger and even some females said she only stayed because of his status. 

Do you feel if someone leave emotionally first, that immediately after they should leave physically? 

Do you think if he was a “regular” guy she would have waited so long to leave physically? 

These were all the things these people were implying. 

I would have to disagree with their accusations because us “regular” people do this all the time. Stay longer than we should.

Many times before we leave whether we leave emotionally first or last we often give that person a million tries/chances. It’s a bunch of forgiveness, talks, emotional breakdowns, hurt, anger and pain. 

Although some people leave emotionally first, to me it does not mean they are only staying around for self gain.....

Some people stick around because they feel sorry, they may see how “hurt” the person pretend to be. And I say pretend because a lot of times when you threaten to leave someone they pour sympathy into you. They talk about how they’re sorry, they need you, they love you, they won’t do it again, they won’t make it without you, leaving them with hurt, etc. they may talk you into staying and you may stay and talk yourself into forgiving, working it out, trying one more time and in that stage or process they hurt you again and that makes you more numb emotionally. 

When someone say “I left emotionally first” I think they mean they became numb to the pain, not necessarily they hate the person or no longer love the person or can’t stand the person but that they may be on chance 30 and at this point what broke their heart at chance 2 no longer effects them the same. 

I also feel like it can mean they are in between feelings or preparing themselves to leave. They know they deserve better, they feel their partner won’t ever change but they won’t just up and leave, it will be more like a few weeks or months because they still have hope that before they actually get the strength to leave the person will finally do better! 

Have you ever left someone emotionally before physically leaving? 

What was your definition or your process? 

Did you fall out of love when you detached emotions? We’re you just numb to the pain? Did you stay because of what the person provided you? 

What do you think a person means when they say “I left emotionally first?”

My experience with this:

I emotionally had no feelings for this person after an on again off again relationship. The last time we decided to try it went well in the beginning. He was a changed man, or so I thought, once I started to see the change in him and he constantly reminded me of why I left him years prior I began becoming detached. I didn’t want to be in that space I was in just a few years early. As I slowly felt myself leaving emotionally I stuck around because 1. I felt sorry for him. He was so in love with me and I felt bad that my feelings were beginning to fade even though they were fading because of him. I would talk to myself and sometimes I’d say “Sy what are you still doing here?” ( with him) and other times I would say maybe if I wait it out things will get better. But everyday he was reverting back to the person he said he’s never be again. It took a random argument and being fed up having to constantly give chances that made me make a final decision to leave one day. I didn’t stick around because of what he could do for me but sometimes just because you detach yourself emotionally from someone doesn’t mean you still don’t have feelings for them, it’s just the way they effect your feelings and your reaction to situations. Many people stick around until there isn’t an ounce left in them and some leave before an ounce is taken out of them. In this situation he drained me enough to want to finally leave but he didn’t take everything from me because I left emotionally first! My emotions and feelings were being protected during this whole process. It had everything to do with me and nothing to do with him although I did stay around longer than I should have: 

Let me here your experience! 

Your feedback is greatly appreciated!!