Leading, being submissive. Do I not qualify to be submitted to because SUBMISSION is based on gender roles?

 What is your definition or understanding, attitude or feelings when you hear the word submissive? 

This is a popular topic that causes a lot of controversy, especially depending on who side your viewing this from. 

Let’s first look at the definition of submission/submissive and then talk about it from a relationship point of view! 

According to Dictionary.com the word submissive is defined as “ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive.”

I’m not sure if the women understand what it means to REALLY BE SUBMISSIVE. There are a lot of women that disagree with this idea but a lot of women use this word loosely. When I think of being submissive I think of God. “To conform to the authority” this is the line that bothers me. I think of “Master” or “Boss” someone that has power over me. Whether it has to do with money, work, Doctors and medicine, teachers in school, someone that controls how I move, behave, or act in exchange for something I need to survive or better myself. 

When a man is the provider “as the Bible says he should be” but (in my opinion) then the “MONEY” is used to “OVERPOWER” their partner. 

If a women is the soul provider, if she’s the head of the household is it then the man’s job to “submit”? 

What would it take for you to submit. I see a lot of women praising their man for paying all the rent and bills, buying bags and shoes and they say it’s easy to submit to a provider. Why is it easy to submit to someone that’s not always leading you with knowledge, respect, love, peace and understanding? 

If a man was leading you with everything but money would you be able to submit? 

What’s the requirements for someone to be eligible to have someone submit to them? 

Why is it when roles are reversed the man isn’t being asked to submit to the woman? 

Is it that when we think of being dominant or conforming we usually don’t put females in those roles. So even when the woman is the head of the house hold she is still not given an authoritative position.

When you think of power, or Authority many people associate those words with strength and the sex of a person. Men are automatically looked at as dominant just for being a man. 

In my opinion a relationship won’t work if it’s looked at as a autocracy, which is a system of “government”by one person with absolute power. Obviously replacing the word government. 

I personally can not be in a relationship where one person has more power than the other because what happens when the “bread winner” role switch? If me, as a female began to educate, bring in knowledge, start to lead, because sometimes in relationships roles reverse am I now the person being submitted to? Do I not qualify to be submitted to because SUBMISSION is based on gender roles? How long do you allow the man to “be down” before you take on the leadership role in your relationship? If you, as a female, pick your relationship up and carry it will your man even consider treating you as the leader? Or do you have to fake it? Do you have to shout to the outside “he’s still paying all the bills and rent”, your sliding money under the table at dinner so he can still be seen paying, you giving him an allowance, doing everything to continue to make your man FEEL like a man. Will you ever want him to acknowledge your position? Is a good partner someone that recognizes roles changed and acknowledge you in that position or are you in a relationship where no matter what your man will never “bow down” to you as not only his woman but his leader? 

We should be able to run our lives TOGETHER as partners because as I stated above roles can reverse plenty of times in a relationship. I truly believe relationships and marriages can be ran great if both parties considered one another PARTNERS. The man should be able to lead but not in a way where he has AUTHORITY over me as a person. We should be able to share authority when it comes to roles, task, responsibilities but not over someone as an able body human being. 

When you think about being submissive what does that consist of to you? Please answer this question in a video reply or a comment below.